The importance of marriage
While it is true that in our world there are a lot of different cultures, religions, and customs, all of them encourage one thing: marriage.
Marriage symbolizes a new beginning. If you are married, by now you have probably experienced the good and the bad sides of marriage. Maybe you were in the marriage, but it fell apart. Or you feel that your marriage is going in the wrong direction. Perhaps you want to try again, patch things up with your ex-wife, or you want to start a new marriage with someone else.
My father used to say that marriage is like a big barrel. On top, there is honey and all the sweet things which make marriage so special. But as soon as you dive deeper, you find what marriage really is: a pile of poop.
And for a while, I believed him. I too thought this to be the truth. But it’s not. There are a lot of successful marriages.
There are a lot of successful marriages, those that could last forever.
Why marriage is good
A new start
Many consider marriage to be a start of a new life, a formation of a family. You commit yourself to someone you love, you make compromises, have fights, you reconcile. It is a union, both physical and spiritual, a chance for you to be selfless, and to help your loved ones.
Most say that it is not easy to stay committed to one person for your entire life. I disagree. If you respect and love someone, you will stay faithful to them throughout your entire life. Sure, there are always temptations. And you will resist them if you truly love someone.
Being a parent
When you have children, it is no longer just about the two of you. You are now responsible for your child, and they are the most important thing to you. Suddenly, you have the extra energy, and you want to give everything you have to make sure that your child has everything it needs.
And here comes the bad stuff
Unfortunately, all the good things can equally turn into bad things.
Many people enter the marriage out of need or necessity, not out of love. And I don’t judge. So called “forced” marriages can turn out into a most beautiful thing. Respect, love, and mutual respect can develop out of such marriages, but very rarely.
Marriages fall apart, more and more often because of various reasons.
Sometimes couples enter the marriage unprepared, unwilling to coexist, to compromise and share. And sharing includes the good and the bad things. The thing is, most people see the marriage as some form of prison. They say you give up your freedom. I personally believe that the greatest act of freedom is to completely give yourself to that one person. But that’s just me.
People are also not ready to fully commit to marriage. They think they are, but their actions speak otherwise.
Divorces are the worst for children. Sometimes couples stay together for the sake of their children, but they clearly unhappy. And children are not stupid. They always know when something’s up, they feel it.
So what is it that makes great marriages so great? What is the secret to their success?
How can you save your marriage with Mend the Marriage?
Brad Browning is a marriage coach and a bestselling author of Mend the Marriage book. He also is known for his nickname “Divorce Geek”.
And he indeed is a geek when it comes to marriage information. But that’s a good thing if you want to save your marriage or prevent it from falling apart. Even if your marriage is currently perfect, you can still check out what Brad has to say to everyone who is married.
He points out three “marriage murdering mistakes”. You can guess why they are called the way they are. And there is no false promise in his talk either. He himself claims that fixing your marriage is never is and that it cannot be built overnight. So if you are looking for some miracle liquid that will make you marriage problems disappear, this is not your type of review.
Three marriage murdering mistakes
1. Believing that you can’t talk your way out of a marriage crisis.
Most marriage counselors, gurus, and coach tell to married couples that good communication is the key to any successful relationships. While it is true that communication is important, the lack of communication is rarely the murderer of marriages. Think about it. Whenever pro
Whenever problems in marriage occur, couples firstly try to communicate. But does that really work? Sure, problems can be solved via communication, but people usually amplify the problem. Suddenly you are throwing insults at each other and saying things you don’t really mean. And in the heat of the moment, you say things your wife or husband will never forget. And then it is already too late.
Brad proposes the opposite of that. He calls this method Immediate Impact Actions.
2. Thinking that you need your partner to save your marriage!
This can come as a shock and might even seem controversial, but you can save your marriage without including your partner directly. It is actually more effective if you take the first steps on your own. This step is about changing your partner’s perception of you, rewiring his perception on psychological, subconscious level.
Don’t play the begging and the pleading card. Even if your partner had already checked out of the marriage, you can still salvage things.
3. Constantly reminding your partner about your marriage problems
Talking and bringing out the problems can only amplify them. And the more you bring them out, the worse it gets. This types of conversation can force your partner to feel bitterness and resentment toward you. It gets even worse.
Because of this constant upbringing of problems, your partner will tide the negative emotions with yours. What you should do is to focus on the good emotions by invoking the good memories and remind them of intimate experiences you shared.
How do I correct these mistakes?
Now we are going back to the previously mentioned Immediate Impact Actions. Use this technique to rewire your partner’s perception of you. This technique is easy to master and with it, you will feed your partner’s mind with positive emotions and memories which they will relive again and again in their mind. That way, they will replace all the negative feelings with positive ones.
Stop focusing on the analytical aspect of your marriage. Instead of focusing on logic and reason, you have to focus on emotions. The source of this problem lies in the western scientific approach to problems. We put too much emphasis on the left part of our brains, assured that we can think our way out of everything.
When you fell in love, is that based or logic or something else? It is a chemical mixture of lust, beauty, and desire and that is what you need to invoke in your partner. Forget about fights, arguments, and reason.
Use Brad’s Big 6 Bond Builders. Use these techniques to make sure your partner never even thinks about leaving you. These are specifically designed techniques with a purpose to “divorce-proof” your marriage. Your partner will not be able to think about the future without you and will fight for that future, making sure it becomes reality.
What do you get with Mend The Marriage?
Mend The Marriage is a complete, step by step guide to save your marriage. Brad has put over 10 years of his experience into this system. Many relationship experts claim in their reviews that this is probably the best marriage-saving system today.
Here are some of the content that you will get if you buy this system.
- Getting started video: this getting started video (which you will watch when you start the program) will explain what you should do immediately in order to save your marriage. You can think of this video as a foundation on which you will build your system.
- How to use Forever Phrase: you will learn how to implement this phrase in your partner’s positive memory. With this technique, your partner will let go and forget all the negativity and focus on positive memories and feelings.
- Dispute Defusing System: with this system, you will stop any fight in its roots. Your partner will feel like he/she won the argument, but only because you invoked that victorious feeling. This is probably the most effective way to resolve conflicts in a relationship.
- Forgiveness Technique: if the problem in your relationship is cheating and jealousy, this technique will make your partner beg for forgiveness only a few days after you apply it, promising commitment and faithfulness to you and you only!
Why should you try this program?
For starters, you have 60 days to test if it works. If this program doesn’t work for you, you can refund your money. There are numerous reviews and videos that prove the credibility of this program. Feel free to check them out.
Also, people usually hide the content of their program. As you can see I’ve already revealed some of the content in this post, but that’s just the surface. Furthermore, this offer comes with bonus content.
- Mend The Marriage Video Series. These 5 videos demonstrate how to resolve the most common marriage issues.
- Infidelity Survival Guide. This video tackles the affair problem, how to deal with it, recognize it and even stop it.
- Children And Divorce. The focus of this video is on children. You will learn how to explain to your children what you and your partner are going through, and how to shelter your children from the problems you and your partner are having.
- Marriage Money Matters. Money is often one of the reasons why couples fight. This guide will teach you how to deal with financial quarrels you and your partner have.
This product is a must for anyone who is in marriage and who has marriage problems. Those who are thinking about the marriage or are about the get marriage should also think about purchasing this product.
Marriage can be a beautiful thing if you know how to mend it.